When he was twenty-five he meet his first wife Singing Grass. He was in a duel to gain her attention with another man, who was also interested in Singing Grass. They were married from 1835 until Singing Grass died in 1840 due to a fever she developed during child birth. They had two daughters during their marriage. His second wife was Making-Our-Road they were only married for a short time in 1841. They didn't have any children because she decided to move on with her tribe. His third wife was Jasefa Jaramillo they were married in 1843 and had eight children together. She was only fourteen when they married.
Jasefa family was a prominent family in Toas, New Mexico. This is the place where he ended up settling down and building his home. He helped guide the army threw Raton Pass during the Mexican-American War and the American Civil War. He was an Brevet Brigadier General in the U.S. Army, army guide and an indian agent throughout the Wars. He continued working with the military until his death on May 23 1868.